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Last night, I read an article by Felice Bakker about 12 things she learned from a 12-hour walk. Without her phone. Her reflection wasn’t framed as a challenge, but I took it as one anyway.
My husband had stopped seeing me as I wanted to be seen. And in turn, I refused to reflect the image of him that matched how he saw himself.

The internet is buzzing about Sober October. All the well-behaved, “normal” drinkers are earning their 30-day chip so they can party guilt-free through the holidays.
I used to run thought experiments on strategies to quit drinking. One of my favorites was to ask how much money it would take for me to promise that I’d never have another drink.

My regrets are softened by the understanding that everyone must recover from something. Tis the human condition. If I hadn’t lost myself to alcohol, it would have been something else.
When I first quit drinking, I tried to connect with the sober community. It’s so important to know you’re not alone when you’re trying something new. As the most obvious exit off the highway to hell is AA, I spent some time in “the rooms.”

Abracadabra. I create as a speak.
As my drinking escalated, I started telling myself a story about how I couldn’t control my impulses. There was no other explanation for why, after years of exemplary self-control, I’d find myself at the liquor store at 10 pm on a Sunday night, knowing that Monday starts at 5 am.
I listened to a Joe Rogan interview with a black man named Derrick Hamilton who spent over two decades years in prison after being set up by a dishonest police officer and wrongfully convicted.
Two and a half years sober, I’m about to celebrate my 49th birthday. My decision to quit drinking was well timed. Even though my daily drinking habit was unsustainable, the source of my angst was much deeper rooted. 
When I quit drinking, I also quit making myself do shit I didn’t want to do. Eliminating alcohol alleviated my guilt. I had been trading on my integrity for drink tickets.
Normal is whatever you do every day. As a drinker, it was normal for me to spend the day outrunning my shame. Feeling anxious and overwhelmed. Doing my best to please those around me and to keep all of the balls in the air.
How often do you think about something you really want? When the desire to be different surges through your body, you think THIS! Solves. Everything. You’d be so happy if only…

I recently joined a local networking group for women. Not because I’m looking for clients (my marketing is online). But because I need to get out of my house. I need some friends IRL.
I used to think emotional intelligence is the ability to control myself regardless of how I felt. Turns out, that’s why I drank.
Don’t surrender your autonomy to group-think sobriety. Exchanging one set of limiting beliefs for another won’t set you free.
Is your inside voice a bully? Internalized oppression from patriarchal, elitist and racially-biased “standards” causes fear and shame.
Stress drinking is like buying cheap crap with a high interest credit card. The BELIEF that alcohol reduces stress accelerates addiction.
Take the self-sabotage quiz: 11 signs that you’re the problem. How to get out of your own way.
There’s a difference between managing your behavior and managing your emotions. Emotional sobriety heals subconscious urges.
Self-care is not making yourself pretty and presentable whilst balancing bad habits with health hacks. Stop gaslighting yourself.
Three basic assumptions have given me the dog I’ve always wanted and accelerated my recovery from alcohol use disorder. They are to respect your bandwidth; maintain connection; and think small.
What’s the difference between “recovering alcoholic” and a non-drinker? The words you chose have a big impact on your experience of sobriety. If you don’t like what you feel, change what you think.
Loneliness isn’t the absence of other people but a lack of connection to yourself. What’s the difference between solitude and isolation?
Drinking alcohol and seasonal affective disorder are directly related. The more you drink the worse you feel. Learn how sobriety affects depression.
Ex-drinkers have worked very hard to get their shit together. Alcohol keeps the masses numb and dumb. Recovery is the next revolution.
Getting help to stop drinking may seem like a luxury you can’t afford. You can quit on your own, right? The trick is to avoid trading one addiction for another.
You’re not bad if you drink too much. You’re not good if you quit. Sobriety is not a good goal. It’s a vehicle, not the destination.
Antidepressants improve mental health. Drinking alcohol (a depressant) does the opposite. Does alcohol cause mental illness? Yes. But like all chronic illness, alcohol use disorder is reversible.
Alcohol is addictive because it triggers the release of dopamine. How addictive is alcohol for you? The more you drink, the harder it becomes to control.
Asking “how to know if you’re an alcoholic,” is the wrong question. “Could my life be better if I stopped drinking?” will inspire you to overcome alcohol use disorder.
The idea of getting sober feels like the hiker who had to cut off his arm to save himself. Except it’s not. Just put down the drink. You can keep your arm.
Recovery from alcohol use disorder doesn’t happen overnight. We have to learn how to process emotions and manage stress, and allow time for brain chemistry to recalibrate. The symptoms of post-acute withdrawal syndrome are easier to manage with a timeline and strategies.
I have regrets about drinking — things I did and said that I can’t take back. The example I set for my kids by normalizing alcohol. The time I wasted being wasted and pretending that I wasn’t.
I quit vaping a few months after I quit drinking. Unfortunately, I started again this summer. Vaping has taught me a powerful lesson about what it means to use an addictive substance in moderation…
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